Have you just discovered that your well known relative has passed away? It is a shock to all family and friends. Many people cannot express with words what they feel, rather they prefer to write it down as a message on a funeral flower card or sympathy flower card. But what are you supposed to write? Usually, people go through many emotions and different feelings whilst grieving.
Types of funeral flower messages
Depending on your relationship with the decedent's family you can choose to write a longer and full of memories message or a shorter - more straight forward message, if you are not amongst the writing self-expression people. Keep in mind the religion you are going to adress, as you might choose forbidden topics of mourning messages.
Short and simple tribute funeral flower messages
If not the most talkative or well with words keep the funeral message on the card short. You might not know the family well enough to write a longer message, but keep in mind that you should at least write a sentence while sending your sympathy flowers.
XXX is gone but never forgotten. My condoleance.
XXX - You will surely be missed. My condoleance.
In loving memory of XXX. Rest in peace.
Always in my heart XXX and mind.
We hold treasured memories, XXX. Rest in peace.
Forever in our thoughts.
The XXX represents the person’s name. As usual, you can combine these funeral flower messages by all means and add something little from yourself, thus paying you love and respect.
Long lettered funeral messages
Many people know how to express their grief in words. Writing a longer message depends on you and your choice. Some funerals include people reading their last words and sending their messages to the beloved while reading them outloud is a common practice;
You can write 2-3 sentences addressing the decedent, his family and your feelings or relationship you had.
Although, you are gone, your kind words, your love and big heart, your smile and you will never be forgotten. Rest in peace. We will forever keep you in our hearts my friend. Your family friends will always love you.
Dear XXX, the world will miss you, your temper, laugh and everything you had to offer. We will forever take care of your family and hold you close in our memories. Our loss is big and today we have to say goodbye, but you left a footprint in our lives. Forever loved - never forgotten!
When you left us, the world lost a great man/woman. Your big heart and love of …. will always be with us. Thank you and your family for all the shared memories. You made us who we are today.
Grieving is not enough and words cannot express the real loss we experience. You were a great friend, family and soul.
It is a common practice to write a long, one/two or more page letter. If necessary, send long funeral messages alongside the flowers.
Types of sympathy flower messages
Short and simple tribute sympathy messages
Compared to the funeral flower messages, sympathy messages come from people who barely knew or are not closely related to the person who is going to be mourned. In that sense, writing a usual message to the grieving family is enough.
Greatly sorry for your loss;
We bring all the sympathy and respect to your family;
Our thoughts go with you and your family;
Wishing some little comfort in this greatly difficult times;
Long lettered sympathy messages
When it comes to longer sympathy messages, it is hard to reach the point where you have written enough and said all. Most of the times many families and people, who knew the decedent take the chance to offer their help in these difficult times; What you might write on as a longer sympathy message can go like this:
We sorrow with your sorrow - we bring respect and sympathy to all your family. Immensely sorry for your loss - we are here to lend a helping hand. All our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Many people do combine several shorter sympathy messages, while adding something from their hearts. Do experiments, but always be careful with the type of religion. You should write the message accordingly.
Types of Religious funeral messages
Discover what each different religion has to write upon someone's funeral. There would be many differences when it comes to religious funeral messages.
Every one of the following religions has their own beliefs or what death is to the living and the Universe. Keep reading below to find out what funeral messages are appropriate for the type of religious funerals.
Buddhist Funeral messages
They believe in Buddha and Karma, the wise way of living. So, when writing your message of sympathy you can talk about the wisdom of Buddha and the circle of life of Karma - what lies beneath their deeds on Earth. There is a possible cremation ritual and funeral that can be held in memory of the descent.
Baptist Funeral messages
What is highly important to know about Baptism is that people believe that eternal life can be reached through strong faith in Jesus Christ. Always ask for what the family has prepared in memory of their loved and lost ones, because Baptist funerals can be all very different. There is no specific law or churches for these funerals, so they can be improvised, as their religion allows it. While thinking how to express your sympathy, make sure to include the strong belief in Jesus Christs, possibly inclusion of a prayer from the Holy Bible would be relevant.
Catholic Funeral messages
Catholics believe in life after death. They hold a ceremony prior to the burial. Our Father, Hail Mary, and Glory Be are prayers mentioned during Catholic funerals and used in funeral and sympathy messages. It is allowed to talk about the soul and afterlife, so you could include them in your funeral message to the grieving family.
Church of England Funerals and Messages
Followers of the Church of England's believe in God and hope. They mostly hope that people go to Heaven or a better place. During funeral ceremonies, priests can read prayers, hymns and read passages from the Bible. Anyone who is not a member of the Church of England can attend a funeral or can organise one regardless of the place. Thus, funeral messages can include God, the Bible and the afterlife. You can also quote prayers. For more information you can look at the Church of England.
Hindu Funeral messages
In the Hindu religion it is believed that the soul reincarnates in another life. All traditions may vary, depending mainly on the family. They believe in cremation, so anything concerning crosses or prayers in Christianity is not typical to the religion. Black is not a welcomed color, so any flowers delivered should preferably be white. Messages could include beliefs in Moksha or liberation of the soul, as they believe that the soul is already free and the body dead.
Jewish Funerals and messages
In Judaism, people believe that they are judged after death. They believe that God will look at their deeds and decide, if they pass to the so-called ‘The World to Come’. Sympathy and flower messages conveying wishes to ‘rest in peace’ or ‘I hope he finds a path to The World to Come and his deeds are not punished’ is well accepted.
Orthodox Funeral messages
Similar to the Jewish beliefs are also the Eastern Orthodox ones, which may vary from the Eastern Orthodox traditions. Mainly, people believe in Heaven and Hell as destinations where a person or his soul will go after he gets judged by God, but Heaven and Hell are more abstract as notions, than really believed in by Orthodox followers. Thus, sympathy messages as simple as:
“May he/she rest in peace and go to Heaven” are well accepted in this form of Christian religion.
Muslim Funeral messages
Muslims strongly believe in the Judgment day when the End of the World comes and that, if you have done good deeds in life, your soul will be spared and in Heaven or punished in Hell. They believe in Allah as their God and Mecca is their Holy city. Their Holy book is called Qur’an. Mainly, messages concerning Allah, his mercy and judgements are welcomed.
“May Allah give you patience and XXX’s soul find mercy for his soul”
Another popular message is:
“From Allah we come and back to Allah we will go” - same as “From ashes to ashes, and from dust to dust”.
All messages concerning Christianity would be considered as wrong.
Pagan Funeral messages
Pagans believe in all living creatures including: Elves, Druids, Shamans. They respect Nature and as this said, most funerals are done in the outer Nature accompanied by funeral music. In the form of a message you can read poetry, play a musical instrument in memory of the descent. As these funerals are rare in the UK, such funerals are mainly organised in regards to the beliefs and life of the deceased. Most of the time thanks are given to the 4 elements.
Quaker Funeral messages
Quakers do not have a specific set of beliefs to life after death. They think of themselves more as a closed group of Friends and not many can have this type of funeral. They do live up to equality and justice,’ ‘peace,’ ‘truth and integrity,’ ‘simplicity and sustainability.’ Thus, they write funeral messages of all sorts, but focus on providing compassion to the family in loss and after the funeral. Quaker funeral messages can be funeral poems, funeral songs, hymns and so on.
Sikh Funeral messages
Sikhism believes in transmigration of the soul which never dies and in Karma, but death breaks the cycle. The Wondrous Giver of Knowledge is the Sikh name for God and they believe that a person’s soul would come into a union with their God after death, which takes place through good deeds, truthful conduct and Waheguru’s grace (God).
People do not focus on mourning. They usually focus on their Waheguru’s will, not their grief, so no funeral or sympathy messages are necessary.
Spiritualist Funeral messages
Spiritualists are rather new to the UK. They believe that the souls survive and pass into other realms of the Universe. Most of them are trained as mediums. Funeral flowers are accepted at funerals, as they get together to share memories, thoughts and mourn the person lost, making the funeral more personal and individualistic. Most messages concerning the memory and life of the dead will be accepted.
Types of funeral and tribute messages for mum and dad
This is probably one of the hardest, most difficult times for any one of us on the planet. Losing a parent is a difficult time and it is only natural that you may find making the funeral arrangements overwhelming at times. There is a lot to think about and you will want to make sure that your mum or dad gets the send-off that they deserve. A big part of the funeral will be the floral tributes and this may be something that you have not had to think about before. When choosing the perfect tribute you may want to take the following things into account.
For a mum
Express all your love you hold of this great woman. Write about life, your memories, thoughts and feelings. What you are grateful for and why you love having this particular woman into your life. Writing a long letter for your mother’s tribute is something natural. Never forget where you have come from.
For a dad
Losing a parent is hard. Writing a funeral message to a dad is also something greatly personal and individual. Make sure to mention all the lessons learned from him and what he has been doing day to day in life for the family. Include what you think is necessary, in order to say goodbye with the right message.
What do you write on a funeral flower card?
There are short and long types of messages. You usually write 1. You name, 2. The message you want to send across the grieving family 3.In memory of who;
What do you say on sympathy flowers?
You write 1 line or up to 3 sentences message to the people who are grieving to show support. It is not necessary to leave your name or anything else. Most common lines of sympathy messages are:
- Greatly sorry for your loss. Our heart are with you;
- We are here with you;
- Our sincere sympathy;
What is the best condolence message?
There aren't any best condolences messages, but you can always write sympathy message lilke:
- May his/hers soul find peace.
How to sign a funeral flower messages?
You usuallay write a message for the family who are experiencing the loss. You can add or not your name in the card.